I came across this interesting critique of the systematic teaching of grammar written by Cathbin Ayoob. The excerpt below cites information that supports some of what I was trying to say. When people abuse others on forums or blogs because of the way they use words, they are perpetuating an ancient form of control and repression. I found it really interesting to read about the origins of grammar and its role in supporting hierarchical societies.
Is Grammar Oppressive?
In studying grammar, it is important to look at its origins. Where was the world before standardized grammar? The origins of grammar can lead one to reject the traditional teaching of grammar. The first book of grammar, Grammatica Castellana written by Spaniard Elio Antoine de Nebrijia, was published on August 19, 1492. This book was written because ” the unbound and ungoverned speech in which people actually live and manage their lives has become a challenge to the Crown” (qtd. in Edlund 92).
In essence grammatically standard language was created so that people would learn the same language and be easier to govern. If people do not understand what you are saying, then their communication cannot be ruled. (It is interesting to note that 1492 marks the beginning of colonization as we know it. Columbus colonized Native Americans and Mexicans as other European explorers headed towards Africa and Asia.) Teaching traditional grammar rules as the one and only way to convey the English language creates oppressive ideals. If these rules propose that there is one perfect language, and language creates reality, then it can be understood that these rules assume one perfect reality.
Standardized, unchanging grammar rules assume that there is only one accurate form of a language, and those who use are in control of the language are in control of society.
These conceptual theories of the oppressive nature of grammar can be seen everywhere. Those who speak “perfect English” are at the top of our economic chain, i.e. politicians, business owners, CEOs, and professors (I realize that educators are not at the top of the food chain, but they do shape the ideals of their students). Those who use slang, common English, Ebonics, what have you, are not in powerful positions in this society.
Therefore proper, grammatical English is a hierarchical divider.
James Baldwin writes: ” People evolve a language in order to describe and thus control their circumstances, or in order not to be submerged by reality that they cannot articulate. It goes without saying, then, that language is also a political instrument, means, and proof of power” (40). Those who control language and the formation of language shape reality. Language is ever changing. New dialects emerge all the time. We are a country of many different origins, perhaps it is time to have a language rules that incorporate all of these origins. 
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