Brideys coming home. She went to her Dads to see if the grass was greener but within 6 months she realised hes way stricter than I am. Im really looking forward to her coming home. We’ve been getting on amazingly in the holidays and its beautiful to see her turning into such a lovely young woman. I love that we are close now after years of difficulties. There is just an ease and respect for each other now. I love that she comes to me with her problems and seeks my advice. Mum thinks its because Ive changed so much. Im happy, healthy and feeling supported and loved and it shows in the way I handle the kids, my friends, everything. Life just feels easier. Also the dynamics between us shifted when I decided to let go of alot of expectations of her helping out. All the research Ive done points to the whole teenage rebellion thing and how its a part of preparation to leave the nest and not something you can do much about, so its best to let it go.
So I’ve been setting up her room, making it a teenagers haven. We’ve decided to get her her own PS3 so she and her friends can have gaming days without taking over the entire house using ours. It looks so gorgeous in there now, new bed and shelves, fairy lights strung around orange netting covering the roof. Feels wonderful to be financially secure and able to spoil her. Feels wonderful to be emotionally stable and able to be there for her without my issues tainting things. Feels wonderful to have a functional family.
